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Talking Across Divides

I recently read an excellent blog about how popular thinking on trans issues may be creating a new binary in parenting, therapy, and society. It got me thinking that polarization is one of the biggest barriers in having thoughtful conversations about a myriad of topics that need careful attention today. It’s pretty tricky business these…
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We Are Not Broken: The Intersection Between Psychotherapy and the Dharma

Lately I have found myself at the intersection of psychotherapy and the dharma (I don’t consider myself a Buddhist, so I don’t tend to call the concepts herein “Buddhism”). The insights from both schools of thought help me live a more balanced, fulfilled, and present life.  The dharma contains the concept of emptiness, which doesn’t…
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Pronouns and Transgender Leadership

In my professional and personal circles, it’s common for people to state their pronouns in their signature line of their email, on zoom calls, or on name tags. Pronoun use has come under the scrutiny in our social circles and, for many of us, under scrutiny in our intrapersonal lives (that is, we have spent…
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Joining versus Attending

Joining versus attending Recently I was reading Sarah Lucia Hoagland and she made a good argument for the value of attending to another rather than trying to fix or control. As a therapist, I know how powerful attending can be, and on many different levels (including ethics) am cautioned against trying to advise, control, or…
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Finding a Therapist

It’s not easy these days to get into a therapist’s case load; suddenly we are all slammed. The reasons for this are many but knowing the reasons doesn’t help you get in: what will? When you contact a therapist, tell them your name and what you want to work on. Maybe you already know this,…
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