Tag: Colorism

It's All About Relationships

“Don’t Ever Look a White Person in the Eye”

A Black friend told me that she went to a gathering of Black folk, a kind of reconnecting/empowerment gathering. Someone there told her they are afraid to look White people in the eye. This stuck me so deeply, tears came to my eyes. I knew I had stumbled on a thread to the pervasive and…
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Attachment Styles

Relationships matter; they really really matter. Boil down everything that you do, and it reduces to the function of relationships in your life. Relationships matter at the very beginning; this sets the stage for later relating. They matter in the middle, because this reinforces or contradicts what happens at the beginning. They matter right now.…
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