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It's All About Relationships

Attachment Styles

Relationships matter; they really really matter. Boil down everything that you do, and it reduces to the function of relationships in your life. Relationships matter at the very beginning; this sets the stage for later relating. They matter in the middle, because this reinforces or contradicts what happens at the beginning. They matter right now.…
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Conflict happens to everyone, but there is help available! Try Mediation!

Mediation is a process where two (or more) participants meet with a neutral third person (a mediator) in order to resolve a problem, or problems. The Center for Dialogue & Resolution (CDR) in Eugene offers mediation to the community, and trainings. CDR claims that using the techniques that they offer results in satisfied participants 89%…
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Mindfulness

The single most useful tool I have found for emotional regulation is mindfulness. For many years I resisted meditation because of a traumatic incident in my childhood. In this memory, I am quietly observing the morning come in from behind the curtain of the sliding glass door, and my father interrupts me in a deeply…
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A Bit of Brain Science

Why is it important for us to know how our brain works? What is “mind” and how does knowing how it works optimize our relationship with ourselves, and with others? Learning about our brain and our mind supports us in making decisions toward healing and healthy relationships (Siegel, 1999). Let’s start with the brain: you…
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